From 51e22204779cdf75370bf640880210c1b5f4324a Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001
From: June McEnroe <june@causal.agency>
Date: Mon, 19 Sep 2022 01:36:48 -0400
Subject: Publish Apologies

---
 www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 | 81 ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
 www/text.causal.agency/Makefile        |  1 +
 2 files changed, 82 insertions(+)
 create mode 100644 www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7

diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7
new file mode 100644
index 00000000..1b15076a
--- /dev/null
+++ b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7
@@ -0,0 +1,81 @@
+.Dd September 19, 2022
+.Dt APOLOGIES 7
+.Os "Causal Agency"
+.
+.Sh NAME
+.Nm Apologies
+.Nd making them
+.
+.Sh DESCRIPTION
+Apologies are very important to me.
+Unfortunately
+I've only recently realized
+how valuable they are.
+I've tried to think about
+what makes a good apology,
+since it's not something
+I was ever taught.
+This is the advice
+I came up with for myself,
+on how to apologize.
+.
+.Bl -enum
+.It
+Make the apology.
+This is the most important part.
+If you feel guilty
+for something you've done,
+or think you might have hurt someone,
+apologize.
+Even if they don't need an apology,
+saying sorry won't hurt.
+And start with that.
+Literally say
+.Dq I'm sorry .
+Sometimes people forget that.
+.Pp
+On the other side,
+if you've been hurt by someone,
+and you trust them,
+let them know.
+Give them a chance to apologize.
+People don't always realize
+they've made a mistake.
+.
+.It
+Explain what you did wrong.
+I think it's important
+for the other person
+to know you understand
+how you've messed up.
+Really think about this!
+It's what will help you learn.
+If you know you've hurt someone
+but you're not sure why,
+you can try asking them.
+Take their answer seriously.
+.
+.It
+Don't make excuses.
+Do not talk about yourself.
+Don't even mention
+how you were feeling stressed that day,
+or whatever.
+It's not relevant.
+We all make mistakes,
+we all have bad days.
+.
+.It
+Commit to doing better.
+Try to learn from your mistakes.
+Say it won't happen again.
+Literally say
+.Dq I won't do that again .
+And then try your hardest to make that true.
+An apology is a commitment,
+not something you're done with
+once you've said it.
+.El
+.
+.Sh AUTHORS
+.An june Aq Mt june@causal.agency
diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile b/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
index c5555274..49d6ff2b 100644
--- a/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
+++ b/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
@@ -38,6 +38,7 @@ TXTS += 035-addendum-2021.txt
 TXTS += 036-compassion.txt
 TXTS += 037-care.txt
 TXTS += 038-agency.txt
+TXTS += 039-apologies.txt
 
 all: colb ${TXTS}
 
-- 
cgit 1.4.1