From fcf75ab205f0a1ea9396fefbed1d460b7ece0489 Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: June McEnroe Date: Mon, 19 Sep 2022 01:36:48 -0400 Subject: Publish Apologies --- www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 | 81 ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ 1 file changed, 81 insertions(+) create mode 100644 www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 (limited to 'www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7') diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 new file mode 100644 index 00000000..1b15076a --- /dev/null +++ b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 @@ -0,0 +1,81 @@ +.Dd September 19, 2022 +.Dt APOLOGIES 7 +.Os "Causal Agency" +. +.Sh NAME +.Nm Apologies +.Nd making them +. +.Sh DESCRIPTION +Apologies are very important to me. +Unfortunately +I've only recently realized +how valuable they are. +I've tried to think about +what makes a good apology, +since it's not something +I was ever taught. +This is the advice +I came up with for myself, +on how to apologize. +. +.Bl -enum +.It +Make the apology. +This is the most important part. +If you feel guilty +for something you've done, +or think you might have hurt someone, +apologize. +Even if they don't need an apology, +saying sorry won't hurt. +And start with that. +Literally say +.Dq I'm sorry . +Sometimes people forget that. +.Pp +On the other side, +if you've been hurt by someone, +and you trust them, +let them know. +Give them a chance to apologize. +People don't always realize +they've made a mistake. +. +.It +Explain what you did wrong. +I think it's important +for the other person +to know you understand +how you've messed up. +Really think about this! +It's what will help you learn. +If you know you've hurt someone +but you're not sure why, +you can try asking them. +Take their answer seriously. +. +.It +Don't make excuses. +Do not talk about yourself. +Don't even mention +how you were feeling stressed that day, +or whatever. +It's not relevant. +We all make mistakes, +we all have bad days. +. +.It +Commit to doing better. +Try to learn from your mistakes. +Say it won't happen again. +Literally say +.Dq I won't do that again . +And then try your hardest to make that true. +An apology is a commitment, +not something you're done with +once you've said it. +.El +. +.Sh AUTHORS +.An june Aq Mt june@causal.agency -- cgit 1.4.1