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diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/037-care.7 b/www/text.causal.agency/037-care.7
index 3fffd77..acbdee5 100644
--- a/www/text.causal.agency/037-care.7
+++ b/www/text.causal.agency/037-care.7
@@ -65,21 +65,26 @@ for my current prescription
 on the public plan.
 .
 .Ss Hair removal
-I've gotten laser hair removal treatments
-at Dermamode with Audrey.
-They're very nice there.
-The initial consultation was over the phone.
-I paid $1350 for 6 treatments,
-in two installments
-at the first and second appointments,
-plus the ~$200 tax on that
-before the first appointment,
-I think.
-It hasn't gone well for me so far,
-but I'm hoping it will
-now that my testosterone levels
-have dropped.
-I will report back.
+I tried laser hair removal,
+for longer than I should have.
+It was a waste of time and money.
+Do not believe any arguments about
+its convenience over electrolysis.
+.
+.Pp
+I've started getting electrolysis done
+with Dimi.
+Again,
+feel free to email me for contact info.
+He is very good and can do long sessions.
+I really don't find it painful at all,
+which I think is partly my own pain tolerance
+and partly the quality of the equipment
+and the skill of the operator.
+I've paid $85 for hour-long sessions
+and $160 for two-hour sessions.
+I'm still really early in treatment though,
+so I'll report back on the results later!
 .
 .Ss Sex & name change
 The form for this is
@@ -121,10 +126,12 @@ a week later.
 It takes another 30 days
 to get the certificate of change,
 after which you can
-order a new birth certificate.
-In all it took about 3 months
+order a new birth certificate
+and RAMQ will (slowly) send you a form
+to get a new card.
+In all it took about 4 months
 from when I mailed the application
-to receiving the certificate of change.
+to having ID with my name on it.
 .
 .Ss Therapy
 I'm not seeking therapy
@@ -134,6 +141,20 @@ that's aware of it.
 I'll update this
 if I find one.
 .
+.Ss Piercings
+Ok I know this isn't trans-specific
+but at least for me getting piercings
+was gender-affirming.
+And I don't mean like
+getting your ears pierced
+is some kind of female rite of passage,
+because that's not even what I got done.
+Anyway,
+I went to Mauve.
+They're super nice,
+really know what they're doing,
+and their website has lots of info.
+.
 .Sh AUTHORS
 .An june Aq Mt june@causal.agency
 .
diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7 b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7
new file mode 100644
index 0000000..1b15076
--- /dev/null
+++ b/www/text.causal.agency/039-apologies.7
@@ -0,0 +1,81 @@
+.Dd September 19, 2022
+.Dt APOLOGIES 7
+.Os "Causal Agency"
+.
+.Sh NAME
+.Nm Apologies
+.Nd making them
+.
+.Sh DESCRIPTION
+Apologies are very important to me.
+Unfortunately
+I've only recently realized
+how valuable they are.
+I've tried to think about
+what makes a good apology,
+since it's not something
+I was ever taught.
+This is the advice
+I came up with for myself,
+on how to apologize.
+.
+.Bl -enum
+.It
+Make the apology.
+This is the most important part.
+If you feel guilty
+for something you've done,
+or think you might have hurt someone,
+apologize.
+Even if they don't need an apology,
+saying sorry won't hurt.
+And start with that.
+Literally say
+.Dq I'm sorry .
+Sometimes people forget that.
+.Pp
+On the other side,
+if you've been hurt by someone,
+and you trust them,
+let them know.
+Give them a chance to apologize.
+People don't always realize
+they've made a mistake.
+.
+.It
+Explain what you did wrong.
+I think it's important
+for the other person
+to know you understand
+how you've messed up.
+Really think about this!
+It's what will help you learn.
+If you know you've hurt someone
+but you're not sure why,
+you can try asking them.
+Take their answer seriously.
+.
+.It
+Don't make excuses.
+Do not talk about yourself.
+Don't even mention
+how you were feeling stressed that day,
+or whatever.
+It's not relevant.
+We all make mistakes,
+we all have bad days.
+.
+.It
+Commit to doing better.
+Try to learn from your mistakes.
+Say it won't happen again.
+Literally say
+.Dq I won't do that again .
+And then try your hardest to make that true.
+An apology is a commitment,
+not something you're done with
+once you've said it.
+.El
+.
+.Sh AUTHORS
+.An june Aq Mt june@causal.agency
diff --git a/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile b/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
index c555527..49d6ff2 100644
--- a/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
+++ b/www/text.causal.agency/Makefile
@@ -38,6 +38,7 @@ TXTS += 035-addendum-2021.txt
 TXTS += 036-compassion.txt
 TXTS += 037-care.txt
 TXTS += 038-agency.txt
+TXTS += 039-apologies.txt
 
 all: colb ${TXTS}